What is communicate to others and motivate our own behavior, influence or control other people's behavior and validate our own perception of event.
GIVE stands for
This does not mean you agree.
Thinking in terms of good/bad or right/wrong
What skill is - Do something else, Imagine, Self Sooth, Think about something else, Remind yourself, Ask, Count your breath, Take a break and when will you use it?
What skill is "oh well"" whatever, I'm not gonna let that bother me."